Learn To Love Who You Are

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Whew.

That is a loaded topic.

Especially, if you are busy professional women attempting to do it all.

After all, every woman knows that if she does everything right and is perfect in all ways that she’ll be deserving of love and get the love she wants.

Hogwash!

Being perfect won’t get you loved.

In fact, trying to be perfect makes you irritable. It makes it challenging for different people to be around you. And that makes you one of the most troublesome people to love.

So, stop trying for perfection!

Instead, adopt your imperfections.

To adopt and love your glorious imperfections you must first understand what is driving your strive for perfection.

As women, generally speaking, and busy professional women especially, the number one fear that drives our effort for perfection is the fear of not being good enough.

The judgment from others of not being good enough as a:

· Mom.

· Wife.

· Sister.

· Daughter.

The judgment of self rather than being good enough as a:

· Person!

Yikes!

For many women, the fear of not being good enough came from people we loved or looked around who wanted us to be, do, or have more. Although apparently innocent and clothed in the ‘sheep’s clothing’ of good intentions, the wolf at our heels frayed our self-confidence and germinated our distrust of self and others.

For other women, being self-confident was neither modeled nor appreciated. Because of this, being ‘ideal’ meant being like someone else that they heard praised for their perfection.

In any event, “The condition, condition, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all defects or defects,” as defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, is an impossible ideal.

That is rest, recovery, ease, peace and acceptance.

As active professional women, we need RREP&A.

Without it, we’re:

R stands for restless,

R stands for relapse into poor health, feel

E stands for embarrassed, become

A stands for stress.

When that happens, we experience Adrenal Fatigue, hormonal imbalances and become bitchy to others.

Three Approaches to Embrace Your Beautiful Imperfections

The first step is the hardest. It’s the step that cracks open any resistance you have to the following steps.

There is no beating around the bush about it. So, I’ll come straight down the center about this: without self-love, there’s no love. I know. That’s a big one to swallow.

Here’s how you do it: 1 afternoon, curl up on the sofa with a cup of tea and a pad of paper and your favorite pen. Begin making a list of all the things you’ve accomplished in your life.

Wow! Right? Look at how much you have accomplished! It’s pretty great!

Now, re-read the listing and acknowledge all you have accomplished. Let it sink in. The first step to embracing your beautiful imperfections is first love yourself.

Step 2: Take care of your love.

What the heck does that mean?

It means to respect and honor your body and emotions. And also to take time to cherish and honor the human body and emotions of particular people in your life. Your significant other, children and dear friends are to be cherished.

Here’s how to do it: Nourish your body with good food, trust your instinct, speak your truth and honor the truth of others, respect one another’s body, and lovingly encourage one another in meeting needs in healthy ways.

The heart of this guide is to understand that your imperfections are, in reality, your own personal, unique perfections. They are what make you who you are. They are as individual as snowflakes and as precious as diamonds.

Your imperfections are your lessons. Think of them as guides along your path of accomplishments.

Here’s how you do it: Remember that list you created in Step 1? Look over that list. Pick out five that you are proud of accomplishing. Write them down on five separate pieces of paper. Then, list the ‘mistakes’ you made along the way that caused you to realize your accomplishments.

See? Each ‘error’ was only a stepping-stone toward your amazing accomplishments.

Love your imperfections. Embrace them. Honor them for how they’ve helped you to become the self-confident professional woman that you know yourself to be. It gives you permission to take the pressure off yourself and unwind a little. Follow these three steps and adopt your imperfections now. It will free you to soar within a loving inner space

Whew.

That is a loaded topic.

Especially, if you’re busy professional women trying to do it all.

After all, every woman knows that if she does everything right and is perfect in all ways that she will be deserving of love and get the love she desires.

Hogwash!

Being perfect will not get you loved.

In actuality, trying to be perfect makes you irritable. It makes it hard for other people to be around you. And that makes you one of the most difficult people to love.

So, stop trying for perfection!

Instead, embrace your imperfections.

What Causes Women to Strive for Perfection?

To embrace and love your glorious imperfections you have to first understand what’s driving your strive for perfection.

In a word: fear.

As women, in general, and busy professional women particularly, the number one fear that drives our strive for perfection is the fear of not being good enough.

The judgment from others of not being good enough as a:

· Mom.

· Business owner.

· Wife.

· Sister.

· Daughter.

The judgment of self as not being good enough as a:

· Person!

Yikes!

For many women, the fear of not being good enough came from people we loved or looked up to who wanted us to be, do, or have more. Although apparently innocent and clothed from the ‘sheep’s clothing’ of good intentions, the wolf at our heels frayed our self-confidence and germinated our distrust of self and others.

For other women, being self-confident was neither modeled nor appreciated. Because of this, being ‘ideal’ meant being like someone else that they heard praised for their perfection.

In any event, “The condition, Cocoa Rat Removal, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects,” as defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, is an impossible ideal.

You miss out on RREP&A.

That’s rest, recovery, ease, peace and acceptance.

As busy professional women, we want RREP&A.

Without it, we are:

R stands for restless,

R stands for relapse into poor health, feel

E stands for embarrassed, become

A stands for anxiety.

When that happens, we encounter Adrenal Fatigue, hormonal imbalances and become bitchy to others.

Three Steps to Embrace Your Beautiful Imperfections

Step 1: Love yourself.

The first step is the hardest. It’s the step that cracks open any resistance you have to the next steps.

First, love yourself. You simply must. There is no beating around the bush about it. So, I’ll come straight down the middle about this: without self-love, there is no love. I know. That is a big one to consume.

Here’s how you do it: One day, curl up on the couch with a cup of tea and a pad of paper and your favorite pen. Begin making a list of all the things you’ve accomplished in your life. List everything great and small.

Wow! Right? Look at how much you have accomplished! It’s pretty awesome!

Now, re-read the list and admit all you’ve accomplished. Let it sink. The first step to embracing your beautiful imperfections is first love yourself.

Step 2: Take good care of your love.

What the hell does that mean?

It means to honor and respect your body and emotions. And to take time to treasure and honor the body and emotions of special people in your life. Your significant other, children and dear friends are to be cherished.

Here is how to do it: Nourish your body with good food, trust your instinct, speak your truth and honor the truth of others, respect one another’s body, and lovingly encourage one another in meeting needs in healthy ways.

Step 3: Love your imperfections.

The heart of this guide is to understand that your imperfections are, in reality, your own personal, unique perfections. They are what make you who you are. They’re as individual as snowflakes and as precious as diamonds.

Your imperfections are your lessons. Think of these as guides along your path of accomplishments.

Here’s how you do it: Remember that list you created in Step 1? Look on that list. Pick out five that you’re proud of accomplishing. Write them down on five separate pieces of paper. Then, list the ‘mistakes’ you made along the way that caused you to achieve your accomplishments.

See? Each ‘mistake’ was only a stepping-stone toward your amazing accomplishments.

Love your imperfections. Embrace them. Honor them for how they have helped you become the self-confident professional woman that you know yourself to be. It gives you permission to take the pressure off yourself and relax a little. Follow these three steps and adopt your imperfections now. It will free you to soar within a loving inner area.

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